Coaches are coaches because they love the sport. Yet, the number one reason coaches quit youth sports is due to pressure from parents. Below are three ways to help make your relationship with your child’s team coach better.

1. Stay in your lane.

Nobody likes being told how to do his or her job, especially by someone who is not in a position of authority. You wouldn’t tell a surgeon how to perform surgery, so do not assume that you know better or more than your child’s cheer coach. As parents, we want the best for our kids, for we all think our kid is a star, but bugging the coach day in and day out on what you think is best for your child is not the way to go about it. You need to take a step back and let the coach do their job. This, of course, does have restrictions: if you feel your child is being treated unfairly or the coach is putting your child in physical danger, you should step in and talk to the coach immediately! However, most of the time it is your personal feelings getting in way. You need to take off those ‘my kid is the best’ blinders, and realize it is about the team. So, with all due respect, stay in your lane and let the coach do what they do best–coaching the team.

2. Let your child do the talking.

One of the best things about having your child in sports is that they learn valuable life lessons, like working as a team, what responsibility means and how to be dependable. These lessons prepare your child for being out in the real world. You, as a parent, are not going to be in the room when your child asks their future boss for a raise or interviews for a new job, so why are you fighting your child’s battles now? All this shows to a coach is that as a parent, you want this more than your child. If your child didn’t get the spot they wanted or tried out for, your child needs to ask why. As a coach, much like in life, a boss wants to see who steps up to be a leader. As hard as it can be, you need to let your child fight their own battles.

3. Do it for the kids.

Depending on the league or team, the coach might be doing this on their own time for no pay. We all know how difficult it can be just to make sure our kid makes it to practice on time after a long day of work. Coaching is really rewarding, but it can be extremely stressful and there is a lot of pressure to make sure your team does well. So, cut the coach a little slack. Understand that the coach is a person and has a life outside of cheerleading. They probably have a full-time job, and even their own kids they have to rush to and from practice.

What are other ways that cheer parents can build a better bond with coaches? Let us know what worked for you in the comments!