Sometimes, there’s a gap between expectations and reality
when it comes to your child being out of the house. You might have several
emotions about your cheerleader leaving for cheer camp, ranging from anxiousness to calmness to excitement to
agonizing sadness. Whether separation anxiety is hitting you hard or not this
time around, here’s what is probably going to go down when your child gets to
cheer camp for a few weeks.
1. Relaxing expectation.
It is summertime! It is the perfect time to relax. Kick those shoes off, pick
up that book you finally have time to read, or ‘Netflix and chill’–like,
actually chill. Close your eyes, imagine
it: sitting on the couch and turning on that movie you have wanted to watch for
over a year, but have not ever had the time. Or, run yourself a nice relaxing
bubble bath while you pour a nice big glass a wine… so what if it is noon? it
is 5 o’clock somewhere, and mom is on vacation!
Well, you tried. Then, you realized you haven’t really slept for years, and
your kid is finally at cheer camp. You just passed out for 5 hours on the
couch. When is the last time you had a nap? I mean, a real nap–an uninterrupted
nap without some little voice a room away saying “mom” every ten minutes? It is
amazing! When you wake up and realize your kid is still at camp, you can always
take that bubble bath or restart that movie you have been dying to watch,
because you have time. Mommy is on vacation! She can do whatever she wants.
2. Break time expectation.
Your kid is gone. You will miss them, but deep down, you are also kind of okay
with it. Day in and day out being a mom is exhausting; you deserve some much
needed ‘mom time’.
Break time reality.
Every time my kid spends the night somewhere or is gone for an extended period
of time, I get excited that I get a little vacation from my parental
responsibilities. Oddly enough, you are still on autopilot, finding yourself in
the child pick-up line at school and have a mini heart attack when you don’t
spot your child. Then you realize, “CRAP! My kid’s at camp, and I could have
been home an hours ago.” Pregnancy brain… that is still a thing after your kid
is born, right?
3. ‘Alone time’ expectation.
The house is empty, no one around. Finally, you have some much needed alone
time with your significant other. This is the perfect time to have date night,
and enjoy each other’s company. Break out that bottle of wine, and have yourself
some much needed adult time–no interruptions, just each other.
‘Alone time’ reality.
Did I forget to mention I have not had a glass of wine in
FOREVER? I thought I was going to hang loose like the old days! Have myself a
good night, have a few drinks, and loosen up a bit. You get home, kick off your
shoes, BUT an hour after you uncork that bottle, it’s lights out buddy! The
good news is ‘alone time’ does not have a time constraint. Just remember: even
in a hectic life, you need to remember to spend time with each other. The good
news is that your kid is going to be gone for a week, so you have plenty of
time to get a quality hangout in with your loved one.
How’d it go? Let us know how your
expectations measured up to reality in the comments!