Here is the thing about kids: you can do everything right, and there will still be a day that they will hate you. Anyone who has a teenager knows this all too well. It doesn’t mean your kids don’t love you, but they sure do hate you from time to time. These kids want to be all grown up; they think they know the world and you want to retort #YouKnowNothingJohnSnow. As parents, we are all doing the best we can to keep these gremlins in glitter alive, heathy and happy, but then, you add cheerleading on top of that. Well, good luck with that. As a cheer parent, you know all too well that anything can and will happen. Just because it’s one month into the New Year, here are some #CheerParentGoals to help you navigate (and just maybe survive) the rest of cheer season without any major meltdowns.

1. Making decisions. #Ihavenoideawhatimdoing  #drama #newcheerteam

Whether your child is new to cheer or they have outgrown their current team, finding the next perfect squad can prove to be a challenge. You start logically, with looking at competitive versus recreational cheerleading: comparing cost, commitment… and the last thing on your mind is how your teenage daughter is leaving her friend behind for a new team. Well, be prepared for backlash, because that is what is going to happen. Yes, a new team is better for your child and you know once practice starts, new friendships will be made, but your cheerleader will make your life a living hell until that happens. #GoodLuck.

2. Getting there on time. #practiceisatwhattime #whatdayisit #whereami

Did I drive straight home today and forget to pick up my kid from practice? Yes, I did. #TrueStory. I thought it was Wednesday all day and when I got home, I realized it was actually Thursday. I ran out the door and sped off to practice. I’m busy, you’re busy, we’re all busy! And, you are going to forget and mess up at some point. Usually, your kid will have zero idea that you, in fact, almost left them at practice. Like I said, things can and will happen. You get lost, you forget what day it is altogether, because that is what kids do to you. #ParentLife.

3. Saying no. #no #nope #nada

Another difficult thing about raising a cheerleader is the large amount of parent involvement and commitment. The severity of that involvement can be anywhere from being a team parent, to treasurer, to carpooling and even chaperoning. I, like many other parents, am a carpool parent; that is as much as I can personally commit to. However, especially parents who are new to cheer, there is a lot of pressure to be overly involved. No one wants to be cheer parent, but someone has to–and that someone does not have to be you! Learning to say ‘no’ is one of the best things you can do for your own sanity and in the end, it is better for your family. #HappyWifeHappyLife #HappyMomHappyFamily.

4. Creating tangible goals. #doingthebestican #iwillsurvive #badparent

So, here is the thing about parent goals–they suck. We are never going to be a perfect parent, so stop trying to live up to that standard. Your kids are going to hate you at times and love you at others. You are going to mess up, but you’re also going to do some amazing things. #CheerParentGoals really translate into #WeSurvivedAnotherDay and as long as your kids are happy and healthy, nothing else really matters. So, stop trying to live up to an impossible standard that no one can live up to. We don’t have it all together, but being there for your kids is all that matters.

What are your #CheerParentGoals? Tell us in the comments (don’t forget a trendy #hashtag)!